When Adriana & Carsten asked if I would like to help them with their wedding, I had a hunch this was going to be something quite special. Adriana is Brazilian so for me that meant Party and Carsten lives in the UK and that means pretty darn cool! Then if that wasn’t lighting fires then there wedding reception was going to be held on a Sunday, during the day! This makes Adriana and Carsten’s wedding the most unique in all the weddings I’ve ever done. So with only about 4 hours sleep after DJing from the night before, I set off for Von Laer in Herford, a wonderful Asparagus yard now becoming a respected event location known for their rustic appeal and smoked meat servings.
One of the most memorable parts was Adriana’s vow to Carsten, where she would like to akin their future together like a game of tennis. Yet this game meant you lost a point if your opponent missed the ball. Yes a metaphoric game where the goal is to serve and play the ball to your partner in order for them to return the play. If the ball is missed, then there must have been some miscommunication and so each partner apologises and both work on a better long game.
Such a beautiful way to build a marriage and the ups and downs life sends us. That nobody is solely at fault yet takes responsibility when their partner ‘drops the ball’. With both selflessly striving to help one another without the need of personal gain.
By 4 pm food had been served and eaten but before minds had time to drift we opened the dance floor, got down to some funky beats whilst Carsten’s brother Michael, entertained us with some good old British Rock a short time later. This year will not go down as the sunniest ever but that last Sunday in August the sun shone for us and lifted our spirits high. For those enjoying the live music, to those relaxing out on the terrace or the children playing in the sweetcorn labyrinth planted by Von Laer. There just such a harmonious feeling of joy which nobody wanted to end. By 9 pm we were supposed to say farewell but we had cake to eat and that meant more energy and more dancing till just gone 11 where Adriana & Carsten sped away in there car into the misty night.
I really can’t express how much of a great idea a Sunday wedding is. You see unlike a Friday wedding, all the guests have had an extra day off to recharge those batteries. Whereas on a Friday most guests have had to work all day and somehow scramble to freshened up for the wedding reception in the evening. Basically you’re doing well if the party goes on beyond 8 hours. Holding a reception on a Sunday means that by about 4pm, we’re already some 6 hours into the wedding and enough alcohol has been flowing to get most people dancing in broad daylight. You probably won’t have to worry too much about the guests going all out as they they will no doubt have work the next day. It means that by 11/12pm your wedding day has lasted some 13 hours. That’s like a wedding reception on a Friday going on till 7 or 8am in the morning, that’s some pretty hardcore partying, even by German standards, where most weddings reach 4am, although most with a squeeze.
My thanks go to Adriana & Carsten for allowing me to be a part of their day and made to feel just as much a friend as someone providing music and all the technical equipment.